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How Trauma Messes You Up And What To Do About It

Because of what happened...

I'm worthless.

I'm not lovable.

I can't trust anyone.

I have to be perfect.

I must have done something wrong.

Nothing will ever get better.

If that sounds a lot like your inner dialogue, then it's time to put those lies to rest.

Trauma is insidious. Lingering for years, decades, unaddressed and unresolved. In Why Aren’t You Over This By Now, Susan Bachmann and Dr. Kelly James help you understand how trauma may have affected your life, the process of trauma therapy with actual case examples, when to seek professional help, and introduce you to the different options for therapy.

Susan Bachmann,

M.Ed., LPC, NCC,
Registered Play Therapist
EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist
Certified Emotion Code Practitioner
Certified Body Code Practitioner

Kelly James,

PhD, LPC, NCC
Certified Clinical Trauma Professional
Child and Adolescent Trauma Professional
Certified Emotion Code Practitioner
Certified Body Code Practitioner
Certified Professional Coach
EMDR Therapy Trained
Registered Play Therapist - Supervisor

Amazon.com Customer Review Rating

5 out of 5 stars

“This book has practical and important information about trauma. It invites readers to think about trauma in new ways and find strength and motivation to address their pain. If you are looking for a book on trauma, this a must-read.”

— Dr. Edward Ewe,

PH.D., COUNSELOR, LMHC, NCC, ACS

“Dr. Kelly James is an incredible person that has enriched both my husband and my lives. I would encourage you to order her book… or consider purchasing it for someone you know that is hurting. I am confident her book will be the missing link in the steps to healing for many readers.”

— S.H.

CLIENT TESTIMONIAL

“This book is an incredible companion to those looking to start, continue, or re-engage in therapy.”

— Alina Garbuz,

M.A., LPC, CCTP, CPC

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Susan Bachmann,

M.Ed., LPC, NCC

Registered Play Therapist

EMDRIA Certified EMDR Therapist

Certified Emotion Code Practitioner

Certified Body Code Practitioner

Susan Bachmann is a Licensed Professional Counselor, a National Certified Counselor, a Registered Play Therapist, an EMDRIA certified EMDR therapist, a certified Emotion Code practitioner, and is working on becoming a certified Body Code practitioner. She is a co-owner of a private practice in Tulsa, Oklahoma and mostly works with those struggling with the aftermath of trauma, including childhood abuse and neglect, still-births, loss of children, medical trauma, accidents, as well as relationship and parenting difficulties.

Susan started her professional career as a Certified Public Accountant and worked for over 20 years in corporate financial accounting. During that time, she learned that it is possible to become very good at something you do not like and are not suited to, especially if you are doing it to earn the right to exist. The challenge for her was not in “the doing,” but in choosing “what to do.” The turning point came when a naturopathic doctor told her “if you keep doing what you are doing, you will spend a lot of money on doctors and hospitals and die young.” She immediately started back to school to study counseling.

Initially she worked exclusively with children in foster care, not only to help the children heal, but to also help their parents heal and reunite with them, as well. When moving from working exclusively with children and into working with adults, she quickly discovered that “the worried well” might not exist after all—that trauma is pervasive and the pain people carry is real, intense, and often hidden behind what appears to be success.

Susan earned a Bachelor of Science degree in accounting from the University of Tulsa, and a Masters degree in Counseling from the University of Houston.  She also completed Dr. Bruce Perry's Neurosesquential Model of Therapeutics training program.

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Kelly James,

PhD, LPC, NCC

Certified Clinical Trauma Professional

Child and Adolescent Trauma Professional

Certified Emotion Code Practitioner

Certified Body Code Practitioner

Certified Professional Coach

EMDR Therapy Trained

Registered Play Therapist - Supervisor

Dr. Kelly A. James, LPC, brings a background of psychology and mental health clinical experience. She has worked in the field since 1997 in a variety of positions. She focuses her research, presentations, and training interests on the neurobiology of trauma, how trauma impacts the individual, child therapy with an emphasis on parenting skills, quantum physics, and energetic healing.

She is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Child and Adolescent Trauma Professional (CATP), a National Board Certified Counselor (NCC), a Certified Emotion Code Practitioner (CECP), a Certified Body Code Practitioner (CBCP), a Certified Life Coach (CLC), a Certified Professional Coach (CPC), a Registered Play Therapist – Supervisor (RPT-S), EMDR Therapy trained, a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor. Dr. James has presented on trauma related issues on the local, state, regional, national, and international level since 2004. Dr. James is an Associate Professor in the Graduate Professional Counseling program in the College of Theology and Ministry.

Dr. James was fortunate to work as a Clinical Supervisor for the children’s program at Green Country Behavioral Health in collaboration with Dr. Bruce Perry, Senior Fellow, Child Trauma Academy in Houston. Dr. Perry is the world-renowned child trauma professional and his model is the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT), which helps clinicians understand how trauma impacts brain development and how to grow the brain up after traumatic experiences. Dr. James’ responsibility was to design and oversee implementation of the NMT in the head-start classrooms.

Dr. James earned her Bachelor of Science in Psychology from the University of Arkansas, two master’s degrees from Oral Roberts University: A Master of Arts in Christian Counseling – Licensed Professional Counseling and a Master of Arts in Christian Counseling – Marriage and Family Therapy. She also earned a Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Supervision from Regent University in Virginia Beach, Virginia.